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	Coping With Loss
	December 09, 2000

We all handle loss in different ways, some better than others. The grieving process can be slow and painful, but there is hope even in the darkest of hours. Those who have been there will probably agree that the best way to cope with your grief is by talking about it and listening to others. Read what others had to say about how they’ve dealt with the losses in their lives.

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TCCyclette: Welcome to TalkLive where this hour we will discuss “Coping With Loss.” Loss comes in many forms and you don't have to feel alone. Please feel free to join in the conversation, ask questions, or share your experience.

Gracegrace: You mean like avoidance as in avoiding the issue and not facing it?

TCCyclette: Yes and others avoiding those grieving as well.

Gracegrace: Oh, ok

WARIOR-14: To hide behind the emotion.

TCCyclette: Last week many of our chatters here commented about feeling alone during their grief. One chatter even felt their co-workers were tired of seeing them cry. Silence during a visit to the recently bereaved can seem to be very awkward. Too often visitors feel obligated to fill silences, to distract "morbid" thinking. What other reasons might a person avoid others who are grieving?

CCCue: Yup or putting off their own feelings in order to take of the other family members that are grieving.

Sa La La La Ly: That is because the co workers have no symphathy.

Gracegrace: Ok, my question is on the other avoidance. I have a friend that I think is kinda avoiding her loss. Don't really think she is facing it completely.

CCCue: gracegrace, how so?

WARIOR-14: You need to feel emotions but not let it cripeoplee you.

TCCyclette: No sympathy? That seems so harsh.

Gracegrace: Well she lost twins but doesn't wanna know the sex of the babies nor name them.

TCCyclette: grace maybe it's easier for her to cope with her loss by not Knowing.

CCCue: gracegrace, that’s so sad but maybe that’s how she can deal with it, not everyone might want to know that info.

Gracegrace: Yeah, maybe so, just afraid she is not completely facing it.

WARIOR-14: Some turn to god.

Gracegrace: Yeah she does.

TCCyclette: Denial happens to many people as a way to avoid things they don't want to accept or not ready to handle. A person may fear saying the wrong thing to someone who is grieving; therefore, choosing not to say anything. Was there a time during your grief someone started to talk then held themselves back from doing so? How did this make you feel?

Angiefox11: gracegrace, it takes time to work through grief and everyone does it in their own time.

Gracegrace: Yes, cyclette, that is what I am afraid she is doing. I am afraid it is going to hit her really, really hard though. Just worrying about her.

SunnyPeach57: grace, how long has it been?

Gracegrace: A week tomorrow, not long.

CCCue: gracegrace, and then again she might deal with it in stages as we all handle things differently.

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